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Bereavement is a darkness impenetrable to the imagination of the unbereaved.

Iris Murdoch (1919-1999) British novelist and philosopher.

If, as I can't help suspecting, the dead also feel the pains of separation (and this may be one of their purgatorial sufferings), then for both lovers, and for all pairs of lovers without exception, bereavement is a universal and integral part of our experience of love.

C. S. Lewis (1898-1963) Irish author and scholar.

Don't order any black things. Rejoice in his memory; and be radiant: leave grief to the children. Wear violet and purple. Be patient with the poor people who will snivel: they don't know; and they think they will live for ever, which makes death a division instead of a bond.

George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) Irish writer.

On the death of a friend, we should consider that the fates through confidence have devolved on us the task of a double living, that we have henceforth to fulfill the promise of our friend's life also, in our own, to the world.

Henry David Thoreau (1817-1862) American naturalist, poet and philosopher.

Grief that is dazed and speechless is out of fashion: the modern woman mourns her husband loudly and tells you the whole story of his death, which distresses her so much that she forgets not the slightest detail about it.

Jean de la Bruyère (1645-1696) French satiric moralist.

For precious friends hid in death's dateless night.

William Shakespeare (1564-1616) British poet and playwright.

Peace, peace! he is not dead, he doth not sleep -- he hath awakened from the dream of life -- 'Tis we, who lost in stormy visions, keep with phantoms an unprofitable strife.

Percy Bysshe Shelley (1792-1822) English poet.