If ever a man and his wife, or a man and his mistress, who pass nights as well as days together, absolutely lay aside all good breeding, their intimacy will soon degenerate into a coarse familiarity, infallibly productive of contempt or disgust.
Lord Chesterfield (1694-1773) British statesman.
If one could be friendly with women, what a pleasure -- the relationship so secret and private compared with relations with men. Why not write about it truthfully?
Virginia Woolf (1882-1941) British novelist and essayist.
What people don't realize is that intimacy has its conventions as well as ordinary social intercourse. There are three cardinal rules -- don't take somebody else's boyfriend unless you've been specifically invited to do so, don't take a drink without being asked, and keep a scrupulous accounting in financial matters.
W. H. Auden (1907-1973) English-born poet and man of letters.
Intimacies between women go backwards, beginning with revelations and ending up in small talk without loss of esteem.
Elizabeth Bowen (1899-1973) Anglo-Irish novelist and short story writer.